Face to face with midwives - Becoming a mother

July 16, 2018

A tu per tu con le ostetriche - Diventare mamma

Becoming a mother is, above all and simply, 'welcoming'. Welcoming the one who upsets your life, what changes you, what makes you even a little more special , but at the same time more natural ; what, why not, also continues to keep you 'normal'. And here you are, finally mothers with a small bundle in their arms. And now? How to manage it? How to deal with the mountain of diapers, with dripping breasts and, above all, with the countless sleepless nights that await you? Many things will change , moms, but what's certain is that you'll make it . Because that sweet and tender little bundle, which suddenly turns into a little monster

screaming, it's your baby. You will succeed because you and only you are his mom (and of course the same goes for dads). Don't be discouraged , don't get anxious and follow that instinct that brought us to 2018 without risk of extinction: do what that little voice inside tells you to do, and give your puppy cuddles and attention. Listen to the advice of professionals, but don't forget that you are the mothers. Be flexible and take the time to get to know your child and understand what he is asking of you. Sleep when he/she sleeps, even if there are dishes to wash or clothes to iron, and think that you must continue to take care of him as you did when he was in the belly. Exogestation (as it's called) is that period in which the child is born, but still completely dependent on his mother: so, what's strange about dedicating almost all of your time to him? Get help from friends and relatives, making them understand that, more than advice, sometimes a visit with the shopping done or a hand in the house, or a chat , or listening can be useful. There will be difficulties, but the secret is to live this experience as part of one's life, as something normal. Each one is a mother in her own way : no one can tell you what your way is like, because you will discover it "only by living" and experimenting with your baby. What we would like to wish you, however, is not to forget who you are : you are mothers, you are wives, you are daughters, you are friends. Too often, today, it happens that this magical and marvelous joy makes us put everything else aside, instead of upsetting the balance with the world and then, slowly and serenely, recomposing it. A real mother is a balanced mother , who knows how to dedicate all the time necessary to her child, but also to herself. Enjoy this great joy and share it with your partner, be happy and your child will grow up happy. Happy adventure! Edited by Chiara and Anna | Midwives | Taken from Being Born a Mom